Modesty

Modesty is a very common problem among girls.  It can be very hard to dress modestly when the world around teaches the opposite.  Many girls think showing as much as they can and making guys like them is important. Though if you dress immodestly and get all sorts of guys hanging out with you, will the guys actually like you for who you are or do they just like your body and seeing it uncovered?  The guys that are good and godly men who would make a good husband and take care of you, will not want to be tempted by lust and will try to avoid you.

If a guy marries someone just because he likes her body, then when she gets older and not as attractive or he sees someone else with a nice body, he will probably cheat on her or leave her.

In my opinion being modest is one of the most important things that is dying out in the world. 

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Modesty

Modesty

“I also want the women to dress modestly, with decency and propriety, adorning themselves, not with elaborate hairstyles or gold or pearls or expensive clothes” -1 Timothy 2:9

Modesty is a very touchy subject around a lot of girls. Often we think that it is the guy’s problem that they can’t control themselves. I initially came into this study with that mindset. However, as we dove into the Word and began discussion, I started to realize for the first time just how big of a problem modesty is for guys. I used to believe that we should wear whatever they want, and I still believe that to some degree. Women are able to express themselves through their clothing, however with that privilege comes responsibility. As God’s daughters we need to match our outward appearance with our inward conviction. That means that we should honor God with how we dress.

God made man to be very visual. They can picture something instantaneously which means when a girl is walking around in a revealing dress often times a man’s thoughts about them can turn sexual. This is an issue that most men struggle with, and (whether we like it or not) we as women play a huge part in. These men that we associate with are our brothers in Christ, and if they are struggling because of something we are doing, then it is our duty to help them overcome their struggle. Now, this doesn’t mean we need to cover ourselves from head to toe it just means we need to dress ourselves in a self-respecting, classy way. A way that God, our Father, would be proud of.

Many women find it necessary to dress a certain way to impress men. They think that if they put their bodies on display they will get male attention, and while that is true, it is the wrong kind of attention. A man who wants you purely because of your body is not a man who you should try to impress. A good man will find your modesty attractive.

I want to end this by telling my fellow sisters that no man can satisfy your needs like God can. He will lavish love, grace, salvation, attention, support, and care more than any man can. He is the one who we need to impress. He is the one we need to live for. 

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MODESTY.
oh modesty
            modesty
                   modesty
                           modesty.

How many times have we been told that our skirt is too short, our pants are two tight, and our shirt is to low. how. many. times. Almost every time this happened to me I would respond with a snide remark and continue my day without changing a thing,why should I change the way I dress and my wardrobe for the sake of a guy that can't keep his thoughts and actions. (well that was blunt...) But what were my intentions in wearing that short skirt in the first place? Why do I choose to wear the lower cut top when there is a modest top hanging right next to it in the closet? Why do I intentionally choose something that will make a guys thoughts go straight down the toilet?
A lot of the struggle of dressing  modestly as a girl, is that we (or at least I) didn't know how MUCH guys struggle with modesty.(check this post out!) We would much rather be comfortable in our clothes, and style than dress differently for the sake of helping a guy out.I know I wouldn't go up to a guy and say "hey! is my shirt causing you to stumble? What about my shorts? My crop top? My bikini? What about my see through top? Let's walk through my closet, I will model for you and lets work this out so that I don't cause you to stumble..." WHAT? That would not only be awkward for you, but also for the guy.
There isn't any direct way of asking them face to face that isn't awkward (at least not that I know of... If you find one tell me!) then how on earth are we supposed to REALLY know how to help a brother out?
            First off, I think it is important to understand that we can really help a guy, but we are not responsible. It is our duty as sisters of virtue (hey hey blog name) to dress in a way that helps a brother in Christ away from toxic sinful thoughts. It is a guys duty to not stare at a girl in an inappropriate way (you get what I mean jelly bean?) The whole ordeal is a balance of help and accountability.
     here are a few thoughts that might help you form your opinion about the matter

dress like you are walking along side Jesus. (cheesy but think about it though...)

Would you show that much skin off for your grandpa?

What's the difference between a bikini and underwear?

Would I live uncomfortably to help a guy out with lust?

How much immodest propaganda is on the TV, Ads, in movies etc. that guys have to deal with?





What are your thought? Comment below! lets have a discussion about this! I don't have all the answers so tell me what you think :)

-Lauren

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Modesty

                          Dressing modesty is very important. It is essential that as followers of Christ, we show him in the way we dress. If a "Christian" girl were to go around wearing a short skirt and a shirt that shows their stomach that doesn't give people the image of a God follower and could give them a false image of what that is supposed to look like. It is a misrepresentation of God.

                           Some girls say that if a guy struggles with dirty thoughts about a girl then it is always the guys fault, but if the girl is wearing clothing that will most certainly cause the guy to lust, then it is more the girls fault than anyone else's.  However if the girl is dressed completely modest and the guy lets his mind go inappropriate places then that guy it really is the guy's fault. Each gender has a duty to not be the cause of such things.

                                       "God assigns the duty to every man, a woman's dignity."

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